130+ Validation Quotes For When You Need Some Reassurance

Isobel Murphy
Dec 12, 2023 By Isobel Murphy
Originally Published on Jan 31, 2021
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To feel confident about our decisions, we are often in constant obligation to please everyone.

When this doesn't happen, we feel dejected. Seeking confirmation from others is called validation.  

But did you know that you can also find validation from within? Here are some inspirational quotes that will rejuvenate your self-confidence and validate your self worth. We hope these validation quotes take away some of your worries, for more check out these you matter quotes and self worth quotes too.

Good Self Validation Quotes

Before you try to please the world, you should love yourself.  These meaningful validation quotes assert the importance of self validation.

1."The only approval you need in life, is that of your positive inner-self."

- Edmond Mbiaka.

2."If self-validation were our most significant societal measure - we would give trophies to ourselves."

- Mary Anne Radmacher.

3."Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself."

- Greg Behrendt.

4."Release old concepts and energies that keep you in self-punishment patterns. Release old stories and create from a place of love and self-validation."

- Gautama Buddha.

5."The most splendid achievement of all is the constant striving to surpass yourself and to be worthy of your own approval."

- Denis Waitley.

6."Be faithful to that which exists within yourself."

- André Gide.

7."If you’re conscientiously seeking approval, you’re not being true to yourself."

- Tomas Kalnoky.

8."What do you mean I have to wait for someone's approval? I'm someone. I approve. So I give myself permission to move forward with my full support!"

- Richelle E. Goodrich.

9."Belief in yourself is more important than endless worries of what others think of you. Value yourself and others will value you. Validation is best that comes from within."

- Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o, 'Dreams In A Time Of War.'

10."The only permission, the only validation, and the only opinion that matters in our quest for greatness is our own."

- Dr. Steve Maraboli.

11."You have to validate yourself first, and then you will receive the much-deserved healing validation from the rest of the world."

- A.D. Posey.

12."Master the art of self-love and you will never have to seek validation ever again."

- Anjum Choudhary, 'Souled Out.'

13."Look inside, without anyone else's validation understand that you are valuable, talented, unique, and worthy."

- Joe Sacco.

14."A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval."

- Mark Twain.

15."Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her."

- Lao-Tzu.

The Best Validation Quotes

Here are some wonderful validation quotes that explain the effects of looking for validation. Are you inspired by any of these quotes about validation?

16."An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: You find it."

- Mandy Hale, 'The Single Woman.'

17."When we consistently suppress and distrust our intuitive knowingness, looking instead for authority, validation, and approval from others, we give our personal power away."

- Shakti Gawain.

18."You're giving your personal power away every time you seek validation from someone else for who you are."

- T. J. MacGregor.

19."It's a tragic that we recognized our self worth from external validation."

- Aditya Ajmera.

20."My existence is not about how desirable you find me."

- Warsan Shire.

21."What makes people weak? Their need for validation and recognition, their need to feel important. Don't get caught in this trap."

- Paulo Coelho.

22."Why do we want and need the validation of those who celebrate our exclusion?"

- Carlos Wallace, 'Life Is Not Complicated - You Are.'

23."As Buddha points out, you should not rely on the opinions of others for validation of your internal progression."

- Frederick Lenz.

24."Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love - you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer."

- Eckhart Tolle.

25."The more validation I need, the less discernment I have."

- Kurt Hanks.

26."Don't wait on approval, validation and likes from others - always give yourself the highest of approval ratings and work from there. Hold your head up and be fabulous no matter what!"

- Jody Watley.

27."Freedom on the inside comes when validation from the outside doesn’t matter."

- Richie Norton.

Validation Quotes On Seeking Approval

The list of validation quotes tells you how you damage your self-worth by continually seeking approval from others. Which of these validation quotes inspires you the most?

28."Life is too short to waste time waiting for other people's approval on how you live it."

- Steve Maraboli, 'Unapologetically You.'

29."You will never gain anyone's approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows."

- Mandy Hale, 'The Single Woman.'

30."Do not trust to the cheering, for those very persons would shout as much if you and I were going to be hanged.”

- Oliver Cromwell, 'The New Speaker’s Treasury Of Wit And Wisdom.'

31."People who want the most approval get the least and people who need approval the least get the most."

- Wayne Dyer.

32."Don’t wait for approval; don’t forget to appreciate the beauties of your life."

- Debasish Mridha.

33."When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful."

- Caroline Myss.

34."So long as you are still worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself."

- Oprah Winfrey.

35."Do not look for approval, except for the consciousness of doing your best."

- Andrew Carnegie.

36."Needing approval is like saying – your view of me is more important than my own opinion of myself."

- Wayne Dyer.

37."Never trade your uniqueness for approval."

- Joy Marino.

38."Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?"

- Brigham Young.

39."I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence."

- Frederick Douglass.

40."Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

- Dr. Seuss.

41."When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened."

- Shannon L. Alder.

42."One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself."

- Shannon L. Alder.

43."If you’re being true to yourself and it isn’t enough for the people around you, change the people around you."

- Unknown*.

44."Until we accept and approve of ourselves, no amount of approval from others will keep us permanently secure."

- Joyce Meyer.

45."A creative life cannot be sustained by approval any more than it can be destroyed by criticism."

- Will Self.

46."When you lose need and take away the demand for validation you remain free of approval from the outside world."

- Tammy Wooster.

47."Do right, and public approval will follow; either the next hour or the next century."

- J. C. Lettsom, 'Day’s Collection.'

48."I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses."

- Johannes Kepler.

49."Once we give up searching for approval, we often find it easier to earn respect."

- Gloria Steinem.

50."There is nothing more shocking than to see assertion and approval dashing ahead of cognition and perception."

- Marcus Tullius Cicero.

51."If you're conscientiously seeking approval, you're not being true to yourself."

- Tomas Kalnoky.

52."You have to accept the fact that some people are never going to be for you. Treat them with respect, but you don't need their approval to fulfill your destiny."

- Joel Osteen.

53."Eventually, you just have to realize that you're living for an audience of one. I'm not here for anyone else's approval."

- Pamela Anderson.

54."The conformist is filled with the need for approval. He can never get enough. He runs from one person to another seeking compliments and endorsements for his behavior and actions."

- Robert Anthony.

55."If you are going to do something truly innovative, you have to be someone who does not value social approval."

- Malcolm Gladwell.

56."You are good enough You don't need anyone's affection or approval in order to be good enough."

- Daniell Koepke.

57."Never explain yourself to anyone. You don’t need anyone’s approval. Live your life and do what makes you happy."

- Unknown*.

58."If we're in constant need for approval from other people, it could be a sign that the approval we receive internally simply isn't enough."

- Erica Florentine.

59."Finding oneself while seeking approval of others means the murder of self."

- Unknown*.

More Quotes On Validation

Do we always require validation from others? These validation quotes provide different views on validation.

60."The logic of validation allows us to move between the two limits of dogmatism and skepticism."

- Paul Ricoeur.

61."God’s approval should be your standard for success."

- Jim George.

62. "Pursuing a dream without God’s approval is as dangerous as walking on a rope bridge over a big gutter? Guess the end!"

- Israelmore Ayivor, 'Shaping The dream.'

63."A motto of the human race: Let me do as I like, and give me approval as well."

- Idries Shah, 'Reflections.'

64."No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

– Eleanor Roosevelt.

65."We have to recognise that the validation of identity comes through relationships we have and what we produce."

- Eva Cox.

66."If you are any kind of an artist, then validation... can be a result, but you're going to do the work anyway."

- David Sedaris.

67."Note that acceptance is different from approval. Acceptance is simply saying, 'It is so."

- Margie Warrell, 'Find Your Courage!'

68."Knowledge is organized data. For it to be shelved as human knowledge it's got to be predictable, repeatable, all the basics of scientific validation have to be there."

- Greg Graffin.

69."Nothing is as empowering as real-world validation, even if it's for failure."

- Steven Pressfield, 'The War Of Art: Break Through The Blocks & Win Your Inner Creative Battles.'

70."If you get validation from outside, then suddenly everything you do at home is justified."

- Anurag Kashyap.

71."Family is the place where acceptance and validation are most needed, but often the hardest to find."

- Bill Crawford.

72."You don’t learn through sales calls, it’s not customer validation."

- Jason Cohen.

73."A lot of people say this honor validates my career, but I didn't work hard for validation."

- Ryne Sandberg.

74."For mankind knows hardly a joy which will surpass that of approval of his work."

- Ernest Vincent Wright, 'Gadsby.'

75."I think in a crisis one looks to one's culture, partially to give validation to why one would want that culture to survive."

- Art Spiegelman.

76."Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance."

- Brene Brown.

77."How much does it cost,

To win your approval?

Will it be money well spent?"

- Clara Marie Mitchell, ‘Friendship’, 'Poems Of Reflection.'

78."At the core of love is validation. It is what gives love power."

- Richelle E. Goodrich, 'Slaying Dragons.'

79."All bad behavior is really a request for love, attention, or validation."

- Kimberly Giles, 'Choosing Clarity.'

80."How quick come the reasons for approving what we like!"

- Jane Austen, 'Persuasion.'

81."An artist doesn't necessarily have to get acclaim from the outside. Maybe it is much better if he can get validation from within."

- Aaron Rose.

82."That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside. There is no shade in that beauty."

- Lupita Nyong'o.

83."I think that the majority of messages are validating messages to confirm the survival of conscious. And many times that validation message is negative or sad."

- John Edward.

84."When we are looking for affection, for love, a little bit of that will be enough to be complete."

- Alejandro Gonzalez.

85."You're learning to be nourished by the love you give, not by the validation offered in response to your giving."

- Matthew Kahn.

86."To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections."

- Sandra Bierig.

87."Growth begins when we start to accept our own weakness."

- Jean Vanier.

88."Some seek fame cause they need validation, Some say hating is confused admiration."

- Nas.

89."Hey-ho, it's raining inside; it isn't my fault and there's nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow, and when it does I shall take full advantage."

- Stephen Fry.

90."Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated."

- Danielle Bernock.

91."To be in 'Vogue' has to mean something. It's an endorsement. It's a validation."

- Anna Wintour.

92."For me, that's one of the best validations as an artist. To have a stranger come up to you and say that something you've created and put out there in the world has had some sort of impact on other people's lives."

- Sarah McLachlan.

93."If you want to find the real competition, just look in the mirror. After a while you’ll see your rivals scrambling for second place."

- Criss Jami.

94."The loudest critic is internal."

- James Clear.

95."Validation comes to us in two ways: through trials we overcome, and through the words of older men."

- John Eldredge.

96."At the core of your heart, you are perfect and pure. No one and nothing can alter that."

- Amit Ray.

97."If you live for people's acceptance, you'll die from their rejection."

- Lecrae Moore.

98."When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It's all a matter of perspective."

- Harvey Mackay.

99."Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

- Rumi.

100."Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world."

- Lucille Ball.

101."Man's desire for the approval of his fellows is so strong, his dread of their censure so violent, that he himself has brought his enemy (conscience) within his gates; and it keeps watch over him, vigilant always in the interests of its master to crush any half-formed desire to break away from the herd."

- William Somerset Maugham, 'The Moon And Sixpence.'

102."No matter what you do, people are always going to have something negative to say about it."

- Tana Mongeau.

103."I used to hate feeling embarrassed, but then I realized nobody’s watching and nobody gives a damn."

- Barbara Corcoran.

104."The world will never value you more than you value yourself."

- Bill Masur.

105."I don't want everyone to like me; I should think less of myself if some people did."

- Henry James.

106."When you're appeasing too much, you might be egotistically over-estimating everyone's need for your approval."

- Criss Jami, Killosophy.

107."When you see validation for a life's work and dedication, it's a beautiful day."

- Mary Gauthier.

108."I don't need validation, recognition or praise. What I need are facts and the facts are that one of my books gets sold, somewhere in the world, every second."

- Lee Child.

109."Never give anyone an approval to upset or belittle you. It is crucial to be self-conscious at all times, because with so much going on, you cannot afford to have others in charge of your own life."

- Gift Gugu Mona."

110."Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you."

- Rob Liano.

111."You have real success when you don’t try to impress."

- Maxime Lagacé.

Social Media Validation Quotes


Some people share things on social media to seek approval. The following validation quotes speak about this.

112."When you feel the need to post everything you do on Social Media for validation, you're simply showing the world your insecurities and emptiness."

- Tavinran.

113."The hardest part of living without social media was remembering that my little life was enough, so I could just stay there and live it without asking for anyone else's permission or validation."

- Glennon Doyle.

114."We derive so much of our self-confidence and validation from Instagram. Just imagine one day Instagram gets deleted like all of your friends who you think you have on social media, all these likes and comments just disappear, what are we left with?"

- Ananya Panday.

115."Did social media kill the 'Social' and left the 'Animal' to graze on validation or starve lonely?"

- Aditya Khanolkar.

116. "As a twelve-year-old girl, I thought that I was only pretty if the people on social media told me that I was pretty - and they weren't telling me I was pretty.

So I didn't think I was pretty, and I was really down on myself, and I really was sad with myself. But social media doesn't give you validation or make you pretty. You make you pretty."

- Noah Cyrus.

117."Social media has created a digital latticework, but it has also, for some, created abusive commenters, silos, and validation rather than curiosity."

- Mary Pilon.

118."Someone favoriting a tweet is really all the validation I need."

- Unknown*.

119."I really feel like social media - it's like all these tiny stages that you put yourself on. And you come to rely on these likes and favorites, and it's this applause and this validation that you start to need."

- Carrie Brownstein.

120."Now is a time where there are so many social networks, such need for validation... you don't have to be a star or a politician to want to have likes or dislikes. Now there is a disease of popularity in the whole society."

- Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu.

121."I don't live my life seeking validation from people on social media."

- Ricki-Lee Coulter.

Validation Quotes About Women

These quotes exclusively speak about the need for validation among women. These validation quotes are empowering to read if you feel down.

122."The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet."

- Mohadesa Najumi.

123."Women have to learn where their true source of validation is."

- Maureen Murdock.

124."The day women begin to feel good about themselves, they will truly feel empowered, and only they can do that for themselves. It will happen the day we stop seeking validation."

- Sobhita Dhulipala.

125."Women are blessed with lots and lots of extra ways to win or lose validation."

- Faith Salie.

126."By learning to listen to a woman's feelings, a man can effectively shower a woman with caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance."

- John Gray.

127."Make sure your decision to have a child is based on the need to share your life completely with another little human being and not because of some personal need for validation as a woman."

- Iman Abdulmajid.

128."A busy, vibrant, goal-oriented woman is so much more attractive than a woman who waits around for a man to validate her existence."

- Mandy Hale.

129."The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it."

- Roseanne Barr.

130."Ready for a harsh truth? Women don’t need your validation. We already have our own."

- Amanda Lovelace, 'The Witch Doesn't Burn In This One.'

131."Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't."

- Margaret Thatcher.

Here at Kidadl, we have carefully created lots of interesting family-friendly quotes for everyone to enjoy! If you liked our suggestions for 130+ validation quotes for when you need some reassurance, then why not take a look at these reassurance quotes, or you are worth it quotes for more inspirational quotes?

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Written by Isobel Murphy

Bachelor of Arts specializing in History

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Isobel MurphyBachelor of Arts specializing in History

With a love for exploring cities and finding outdoor spaces to enjoy, Isobel has spent her life exploring various cities in the UK, from her hometown of Surrey to Birmingham where she studied history for three years. She is passionate about sports and enjoys watching and playing, as well as baking and spending quality time with her loved ones.

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